Setting boundaries isn’t easy but it’s necessary for healthy relationships.
Here are a few tips for setting clear boundaries:
1) Decide what your needs are. Inventory moments in your relationships that make you uncomfortable or unhappy. In order to clearly communicate a boundary you must first be clear on your needs.
2) Make an “I wish” list. As your completing step one, consider every time you’ve thought, “I wish they wouldn’t do __.” Write it out so you can see it.
3) Turn each “I wish they wouldn’t” statement into a boundary. Your next column/section should read, “when they do , I will say in love.”
4) Now that you’ve got a clear strategy, it’s time to put it into action. When sharing your boundaries, Speak the truth in love, in the right space, at the right time. Also remember that this is new, you are changing not the other party. In the past you’ve allowed these patterns and behaviors to persist. Always allow grace and if necessary, space as you both grow in clarity, respect, and peace.
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